Do you have a knack for connecting with people? Emotional intelligence is the ability to identify and understand emotions – both your own and those of others.
Research showed that it is a very rare and precious. Emotional intelligence can help you build and strengthen relationships, defuse conflict, and improve overall job satisfaction.
Psychology Experts Say If You Use These 13 Phrases Every Day Without Even Thinking About It, You Have superior emotional intelligence that most people:
1. “Could you tell me more about this?”
People who lack self-awareness only care about their own thoughts and opinions. But emotionally intelligent people are interested in how other people feel and what they have to say.
Communicate in a way that encourages people to talk about their feelings and experiences, and use their responses as a learning opportunity.
2. “I hear you.”
By telling someone that you understand themyou set up a perfect cooperative environment for team-building.
Other similar phrases such as “I see what you mean” and “I understand what you mean” indicate that you are really listening and opening the lines of communication.
3. “I understand what you’re saying, but…”
This phrase highlights another important aspect of emotional intelligence: the ability to act diplomatically in the face of difficult people and circumstances.
If you disagree with someone, express it tactfully and without confrontation. The objective is to facilitate the search for a mutually acceptable solution.
4. “How do you feel about this?”
To make people feel recognized and respected, pay attention and take the time to understand and sympathize with them. As you listen, make an effort to put yourself in their shoes in a meaningful way.
5. “I don’t know what’s wrong. Could you explain the problem?”
With this sentence, you know that someone has a problem and instead of reacting negatively, you invite them to share their thoughts.
Similar alternatives: “Can you clarify this for me?” or “What I hear from you is that [X]. Is it correct?”
6. “What do you mean?”
When you ask someone for clarification, you are asking them to say something in a different way or provide more information so that you understand them better. This is different from asking a person to repeat something.
7. “Great job!”
Showing appreciation goes a long way. He recognizes the efforts and achievements of others.
When you compliment someone, you immediately create a positive mood. Saying “I like you” makes other people like you You more.
8. “You both have good points. Let’s see how we can work together.”
This phrase can help you problem-solve diplomatically by acknowledging different points of view.
Once you’ve encouraged everyone to share their concerns, you can more easily resolve a potential problem. Studies show that the ability to resolve conflict is a hallmark of emotional intelligence.
9. “I would like your opinion on this.”
This phrase, and similar ones like “Can I get some advice from you?” or “Do you mind if I ask for feedback?”, are gold.
You allow someone else to feel proud of themselves, which gives them a very positive opinion of you.
10. “This situation worries me [or confused or upset].”
When there is a problem, emotionally intelligent people don’t focus on the person who created it, but on the bigger picture.
This way you don’t blame someone or put them on the defensive. Instead, you explain how you feel about what happened, which helps you avoid ringing passive aggressive or antagonist.
11. “I feel like this about…”
When you are emotionally intelligent, you connect to your emotions as they arise, in the moment.
This kind of self-awareness allows you to better share your own emotions and impressions with other people, which brings them closer to you and encourages them to do the same.
12. “I’m sorry.”
Having a healthy dose of humility is common among people with high emotional intelligence. Don’t be afraid to say “I’m sorry”. When you make a mistake, admit it and sincerely apologize who deserves it.
13. “Thank you!”
Remember those “magic words” you learned as a kid. “Please”, “thank you” and “you are welcome” are always appreciated.
Common courtesy is unfortunately not so common these days, according to studies. Being polite isn’t just a mark of high emotional intelligence, it’s also a way of showing respect for others, which makes them consider you more.
Kathy and Ross Petras are the sibling co-authors of “Awkword Moments: An animated guide to the 100 terms smart people should know” “You Say It Wrong” And “It doesn’t mean what you think it means: the 150 most commonly misused words and their tangled histories.” They have also been featured in outlets such as The New York Times, Chicago Tribune, Washington Post, and Harvard Business Review.
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